Planning to Leave

A Safe Place

Take Action

If you are considering leaving an abusive relationship there are some actions that you may want to take:

  • Call the police in an emergency.
  • Call our crisis line (780)-464-7233 to get information and support.
  • Make a Safety Plan.
  • Talk to a friend or family member.
  • Look for a safe place to stay (with family or at a shelter).
  • Prepare an Escape Plan.

Making a safety plan involves identifying the steps you can take to increase your safety and helps to prepare you and your children in advance for the possibility of further violence.

Safety Plan

  • Prepare and practice your escape plan.
  • Copy and collect all important documents and place them in a safe place (friend’s home or safety deposit box in a bank where your partner does not go).
    • Alberta Health Care and Social Insurance cards.
    • Credit and bank cards, chequebook.
    • Birth certificates (for you and the children).
    • Passport, immigration or citizenship papers.
    • Titles of property, lease, mortgage, and insurance papers.
    • Immunization card for the children.
    • Driver’s license and car registration.
    • Custody order, separation or divorce papers.
  • Take personal items with you such as:
    • Medications and prescriptions for you and your children.
    • Keys- house, car, office, safety deposit box.
    • Clothing for you and the children.
    • Personal hygiene products.
    • Jewelry.
    • Items of special sentimental value.
    • Children’s favorite toy and/or blanket.
    • Eye glasses and any needed medical equipment.
  • Take the children with you if possible. It is not considered kidnapping; both parents have equal rights to their children unless there is a court order. If you try to get them later, the police cannot help you to remove them from their other parent unless you have a valid court order.

If you are not able to take anything with you when you leave, you can return to your home later with a police escort to gather your personal belongings.

Escape Plan

  • Look for possible escape route(s) in the house.
  • Save money in secret when you can and hide it or open a savings account –instruct the bank not to send statements to your home address.
  • Make arrangements with friends or family so you can stay with them if necessary.
  • Do not inform your partner that you are going to leave. It may not be safe. Leave when he is gone or create an excuse to leave the house.
  • Secure transportation.
  • Prepare an escape bag filled with things you will need if you leave (i.e. clothes, extra keys, important documents, prescribed medicines). Keep it in a safe place; if possible away from home, at a friend or relative’s.
  • Create a code word with your children and family so they know when to call for help.
  • Keep all your identification papers in your wallet.
  • Teach your children their own safety plan (i.e. safe place to go, how to call 911, emergency exits).
  • Tell people that you trust about the abuse.
  • Make plans for your pets with people you trust.